The month of February rhyme for most people with Valentine’s Day. A day during which, most women hope that they have given enough directions discreet hints for their partner to understand what would make them happy! The 2 first weeks of February are all about giving the right hints and reading between the lines.
The guessing game
Of course we are setting ourselves up for disappointment as we hope that our loved one can guess accurately what we would love to receive as a token of their love. We are asking our companion to be a romantic knight in shining armure, a mind-reader and with COVID 19 a creative miracle worker. If we don’t have a significant other, we are day-dreaming that a secret admirer will make himself known in a scene straight out of “Love Actually”.
Dare to claim
This year, what if “deciding to own up to our wishes” was the secret to happiness. There is nothing wrong with telling our loved ones what we would love to receive for Valentine. You deserve to receive whatever you wish, so start by listing what you dream, then divide them into categories: immediately possible, requires some work, future aspirations.
So receiving a bouquet of flowers might be an immediate possibility but going on a Caribbean Holiday is definitely a stretch too far in 2021 so don’t deny yourself what you wish for just make a detailed plan of your aspirations at short, medium and long term.
Self-care
We have all heard about not being able to pour from an empty cup, so make February the month when you fill yourself with plenty of self-care. Take some well-deserved Me Time and enjoy doing the things that make you feel happy.
Why not have a nice bath with this bath bomb that you had in the cupboard for so long?
Why not buy this dress you have been looking at online for months?
Why not indulging in new beauty cream or face mask?
Why not watch Bridgeton on Netflix with a nice glass of wine?
My Happy Cup
Just do it, have plenty of self-care time all by yourself and have a good time doing things that makes you happy. Once you have filled your life with plenty of happiness you will stop needing others to fill your cup.
This is the key to happiness: don’t ask your partner to fill your cup because that’s your job. Your partner is free to add a new flavour of tea or get you an extra cup. If you don’t have a partner, being happy is the best magnet to attract love!